The 4 Secrets to Living Your Dream Life
Week 1 Know where you are and where you want to go
Coming soon: Week 4 Take note of how far you have come already and follow through
1: Know where you are and where you want to go
All around us people move through life without giving much thought to what they once dreamt of. Somehow life got in the way and they ended up doing “something” that might make them a living but leaves them feeling empty. Over time they ask themselves “Is this all life is? Is this all?”
Being at an age where most people retire, I can tell you NO, it is not! Life is exactly what you make it. It is in your hands and you can change it at any time – no matter what your age or background. Don’t believe me? Look at the founder of Kentucky Fried Chicken – Colonel Sanders. He was 62 when he started the Kentucky Fried Chicken franchise, which today is the second largest fast food chain in the world after McDonalds, which was founded by Ray Kroc at age 53. Or look at Leanna Archer, who at age 17 was the youngest CEO ever to open the Nasdaq. Age does not matter and circumstances are made – by YOU!
Of course a happy and successful life it is not necessarily about building a great business. Happiness and fulfillment means something different for each of us. If you look around, you can find young and old who take their life into their own hands and make their dreams come true. But to see them, you need to look in earnest because the vast majority of people in the Western world drift through life without a clear direction.
So, if you don’t want to be one of the drifters; if you feel there has to be more to life; if your life isn’t yet the life of your dreams, this series of articles is for you. Today is the day to take your dreams off the shelf, dust them off and start moving in their direction, step by tiny step.
It’s not too late to be what you might have been.
Let’s start by looking at where you are. This is called the Wheel of Life. If you have done it before, even better. Do it again now to get a feel of where you are and what might have changed since last time. Whether you do it again or do it for the first time, give it some thought and be brutally honest with yourself. Nobody else needs to see this.
On a scale from 1 to 10 (10 being the best) where are you in each area? Be honest to yourself. If you are bored in your job or in your marriage, a 9 or a 10 are not appropriate, even if you make good money or get along ok. Boredom is not really living your dream, is it?
Now, when looking at your wheel of life, does it still look like a round wheel that would run smoothly or is it ragged with ups and downs that would never be able to move you forward if it was a wheel on your car? If that is the case, you know that there are imbalances in your life and that there are areas you need to work on, right?
Let’s start on that by defining what you don’t want anymore. That seems to come easier to most of us. Start where you are right now. Recognize the challenges you are having and begin to take responsibility for overcoming them. Be honest with yourself and use any frustration you might feel to motivate you to change and finally move towards what you want.
Make a list of all the things you do not want (anymore) in your life.
Now for each item on your list, find the opposite, the solution, the thing you want instead.
Once that is done, brainstorm steps you can take to eliminate the things you don't want and what you could do instead. The HOW is not important at this stage. Just write whatever comes to mind, no matter if it seems possible or impossible.
Imagine you had a magic wand, what would your ideal body look like and how would it feel to have that ideal body? Would you feel beautiful, vibrant, healthy, fit, sexy…? What would it be for you?
- What would your ideal financial situation be like? How much do you want? Why do you want it? What would you do with the money? Go beyond buying things.
- What does your ideal career look like? Or if you don’t want a career, what do you want to do with your time? Do you want to donate it to a cause you believe in? Do you want …? Start thinking of the possibilities.
- How about your relationship? What could it be like? Maybe you don’t want an intimate relationship? What do you want? Describe it in detail and always in present tense.
- Now to your family and social life. What would it look like if you had that magic wand?
- How about your spiritual life? Spin along and go into detail.
- Tell me, what do you really want?
- If you had it in just the way you want it, what would that do for you?
- What would be the best part about it?
- Why would that be the best part?
Write everything down regardless of how impossible or improbable it might seem.
Life only changes if we change.
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” But that is what the majority of people do. However, you cannot expect to live a better life if you do not change the way you live your life - period. - Albert Einstein
Write and define what you really want. Take your time over it. Remember, you are creating your future; first in your mind, then on paper and eventually in reality but unless you are crystal clear on what you want that future to look like, there is only a tiny chance that you will ever get it.
Barbara Hofmeister is an internationally renowned speaker, author and expert on the topic of human growth. She became interested in her own personal growth in 1978 when a friend gave her the book “Your erroneous zones” by Dr. Wayne Dyer. Since then she has not stopped studying the topic until she felt she had to write down all her learnings and share them with the public. Her book is called “To be or not to be – the choice is YOURS!” and uses a practical step by step approach to get you from where you are today to where you want to go in your life. Barbara considers it her mission to help as many people as possible to rediscover their dreams and to gain the confidence and belief in themselves to actually make them come true.